It is a horrible account to read! I cannot imagine how this loving lesbian couple would have reacted to a man standing in their bedroom with a butcher knife. The year was 2009 and Teresa died in a bid to save Jennifer who was bleeding profusely. Now, six years later, Jennifer is still healing. She used musical therapy to help her cope with the pain and loss. Now, she and friends formed Angel Band Project to help others cope with violence and sex abuse victims.
Forgiveness is Key to Healing
I watched a show where Oprah talked about forgiveness as being a key to self-healing. She spoke with a victim of incest where the woman spoke of forgiving her father. Oprah added, “You forgive him, but you don’t have to go near him.” Jennifer has spoken to various media sources and I’ve found one quote that I think is remarkable: “I don’t know if I could have sung one note if I hadn’t been on a path of peace and forgiveness toward my attacker.”
That Aweful Night.
In July 2009, Isaiah Kalebu crawled through an open window into Hopper and Butz’s Seattle home. He raped and stabbed both women for ninety minutes. The couple was just two months away from their commitment ceremony. Teresa Butz was fatally stabbed through the heart. Before she died she threw a tale through the bedroom window and pushed herself out. She had noticed that Kalebu had slashed Jennifer’s neck and that she was bleeding profusely. Teresa launched herself at Kalebue allowing Jennifer to make her escape. After diving through the window, Teresa died on the street. She was just 39 years of age. Kalebu was convicted two years later for aggravated murder, attempted murder, rape and burglary. Jennifer testified against him. She has forgiven him.
Honouring Teresa and Others
After the attack, two of Butz’s childhood friends founded the Angel Band Project. The idea was to raise money for victims of sexual abuse. Jennifer had always loved to sing, but after the attack, she pushed music aside. How can you sing in darkness and in pain? She needed to heal. Friends convinced her that healing could be done by music therapy. Now, Jennifer is giving back, honouring Teresa and other victims of sexual abuse and violence.
If you are in need of healing – seek it! Don’t put it off, please.