Paula here. This is just my opinion.
Is this the first Christmas for someone you know that has suffered the death of a loved one? Human kind have difficulty dealing with death and grieving. We often speculate – should we leave them alone to grieve – or – should we invite them for a meal? At Christmas time we have extra misgivings. Will the griever put a damper on the kids? Will everyone have to dance around on tip toe? Should we talk about the departed one? Under these circumstances, many decide to not invite the griever. I think this is a shame.
Christmas Can be a Most Lonely Time
I think an invitation should be sent. It is better to do it personally by knocking on a door or having a telephone call. Do be too persistent, but also don’t give up. Ask the person to think about it and you’ll phone them again. That way, the person will know that it was not just a one-time charity act.
Tell the person that the kids know that it is alright to go ahead and have fun. Tell the griever that you have told them that it is as if one of their friends broke an arm or leg and cannot join in the games. In this case, the griever has a broken heart, but like the arm or leg, the heart can heal in time.
Send a Parcel to Open
If the grieving person is a long distance from you, try to make some time to send a parcel. Opening a lot of little gifts will make the person feel loved. Then, they can put these gifts on coffee tables or on their bedside table and it will raise their spirits.
Again, these are just my opinions.