Sep 102013

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And to those who married: Japanese newly weds with Mickey and Minney and Taiwan-the first Buddhist lesbian wedding.  (2013)


Sorry for the lesbians that I missed!  These were the most quickly available in my photo library.

You might say that the topic of same-sex marriage started or occurred in the Netherlands in 2001.  New Zealand became the fourteenth country in 2013.  The push is on for more American states to pass marriage equality laws.  Meanwhile, there are a few quotes and I end them with a ‘brief’ that ellen wrote to the Supreme Court when it agreed that same sex marriage was constituitional

“We, gays, can get married in Canada. We let heterosexuals too, but that was a huge thing, we had to have a referendum and a vote, it’s crazy! But then we were like, if they want to get married.. that’s cool. That’s gonna destroy their relationships, but.. Heterosexuals deserve the same rights as homosexuals.”  Tegan Quinn

“You cannot stand for civil rights + not support gay marriage. You cannot stand for human rights + not support gay marriage. It’s that simple. Everywhere, the voice of the oppressed must echo + ring out or else it will be crushed by the tyranny of wickedness.” (Bernard Schaffer)

“You still don’t like the idea of gay marriage? Then, as my friend the economist Julianne Malveaux says: Don’t marry a gay person. Case closed, problem solved.” (Barbara Ehrenreich)

“About their wedding on a beach of Nantucket, after nearly 50 years together as a couple: “After years of being who we truly were only in the privacy of our homes or with a few friends, we were out in the world, under the sky, no longer pretending.” – Norman Sunshine, co-author, Double Life”

Norman Sunshine, Double Life: The Story of a Fifty Year Marriage


What’s in Your Brief, ellen?



California’s Proposition 8 is headed to the Supreme Court. Hundreds of companies and families as well as Republicans are submitting briefs urging the 9 judges to allow gay people to marry. I thought that was ridiculous. Why would judges want all of that underwear? Then, after a quick talk with some people, I found out what a brief was.

I’ve never filed a brief to the Supreme Court, so I thought I would post mine here. I’m sure someone will tweet it to them.

Portia and I have been married for 4 years and they have been the happiest of my life. And in those 4 years, I don’t think we hurt anyone else’s marriage. I asked all of my neighbors and they say they’re fine.

But even though Portia and I got married in the short period of time when it was legal in California, there are 1,138 federal rights for married couples that we don’t have, including some that protect married people from losing their homes, or their savings or custody of their children.

The truth is, Portia and I aren’t as different from you as you might think. We’re just trying to find happiness in the bodies and minds we were given, like everyone else.

Coming out was one of the hardest things I ever did. I didn’t intend to be on the cover of Time magazine saying, “Yep, I’m gay.” The truth is, I don’t even remember saying that. I mean, I definitely said the “I’m gay” part. It’s the “yep” I don’t remember. I’m not really a “yep” person. “Yes siree Bob” maybe. But not “yep.”

In the words of Benjamin Franklin, “We’re here, we’re queer, get over it.” And there’s another famous quote that says “A society is judged by how it treats its weakest members.” I couldn’t agree with that more. No one’s really sure who said it first, so if anyone asks, tell them I said it.

I hope the Supreme Court will do the right thing, and let everyone enjoy the same rights. It’s going to help keep families together. It’s going to make kids feel better about who they are. And it is time.

*I was just told Benjamin Franklin did not say that first quote. I apologize and see that I have a lot to learn about stuff.

Here’s hoping someone, indeed, tweets to this the powers that be.

Paula’s comments:  “And ellen, we won!  Love to you and Portia”.


Will someone who knows this pair of fine lesbians, tell them about my site.  I have written an outback story for Portia, and I know ellen will enjoy reading about a lesbian nurse serving in the Vietnam War.ellen and portia

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