Imagine being woken up by a parent or the alarm clock and dreading, not disliking, but dreading/fearful going to school. Many teens do not enjoy High School but they get through it and with their certificate get a job or go for further education or training. For those bullied, there is very little incentive to think about the future, when the present in hell! This was the case for Taylor Alesena, 16, of Fallbrook, California. Every day was hell and even after school Taylor was cyber bullied.
When Life is Deemed Not Liveable
Taylor was born a boy, but became a transgendered person. She more makeup and looked feminine. The students who bullied her were ignorant and did not believe in diversity (even though it was all around them in race, religion and gender).
She sat alone at lunch time with earphones to block out the vile comments. “Friends” abandoned her as they were unable or afraid to become victims also – peer pressure at its worse!
Taylor fought back against this ignorant harrassment and mean spirited bullying on Youtube. In all her pain, she tried to reach out to others in the same situation. She told them, “The biggest piece of advice I could give to someone who’s transgendered is ‘you’re becoming yourself.’ Yet, she could not take her own advice and committed suicide.
School Board’s Response
A statement was issued by the Fallbrook Union High School District issued this statement regarding Alesena’s death: “One of Fallbrook High School’s students tragically passed away during the spring break, on Thursday, April 2.
“We are attempting to honor the family’s request for privacy while also helping our students and staff who have been impacted by this sad event. The district has had counselors on site to support our school community.
“Fallbrook High has a continuum of appropriate services (social, emotional, academic) to ensure every student is supported and successful at Fallbrook High School.
“It is never easy when something like this happens, but we are working to move forward together and stronger than before.”
Paula’s personal comments
“Sad event?” It was a tragedy –a death that should not have happened! A whole school notices this girl and nobody (staff or students) intervene.
There is a Gay/Straight Alliance club at Fallbrook, but if there is a teacher like West Virginia’s David Foggin in Fallbrook, then homophobic vile comments might sway a lot of students. The vile teacher David Foggins posted his picture on Facebook with these comments:
“Club meeting at PSHS!! Rally around them and show ur support,” he wrote alongside a picture of a poster advertising the event.
“We are also considering a drunks-t totaller [sic] club, drugged/sober club, smokeless tobacco vs smokes club, street racing, and deer poaching clubs,” he added.
“Please donate and support us. Thank u!!! I think I hear the drag already zinging,” the News and Sentinel reports him as ending.
Foggin was suspended by Wood County Schools superintendent Pat Law on Tuesday and will not be back in the classroom until after Spring Break.
The LGBTQ Responds to Taylor’s Suicide in California:
Max Disposit, executive director of the North County LGBTQ Resource Center in Oceanside, told ABC 10.
“You could see people stare and be rude to her,” said Disposti.
Disposti said Taylor complained to school officials but nothing changed.
“She felt unsafe, she felt beat up every day she needed to go to school,” said Disposti.
“We have to do better for those still here.”
A statement on the center’s website said: “Taylor was a beautiful and courageous girl, and all she wanted was acceptance.
“Our trans youth are the primary target of bullying, and the desperation that it causes is literally killing their hope for a better tomorrow.
“Kids can be cruel, but hate is a learned behavior.
“Schools that are not visibly supportive of our LGBTQI (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Questioning and Intersex) youth and do not take active steps to educate about gender identity and sexual orientation are inevitably fostering the homophobes and transphobes of tomorrow.”
Reach Out – Precious Ones
If by chance you are suffering like Taylor and you are reading this blog, please reach out. There are organizations there to help you. Please know that you are precious and if you are in the darkness of hatred – there are people who will bring you into the light of acceptance and love. paula.
These are American phone numbers, but in what ever country you are living, there are groups to help and freinds to meet.
For support on child gender identity issues call Mermaids on (0208) 1234 819.
Anyone having suicidal thoughts should contact Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90 .